Do you think he saw to it that you were purposefully excluded from the process?

Putting tradition and even...marital outcome aside, I would not wish for you to be yoked to someone who refuses to see or hear you.

Yet hexing is perhaps too direct at this juncture. Yes.

On one hand, I laugh at the old-fashioned notion of young women as potions on a shelf, just waiting to 'expire' or 'be ruined.' But then again I'm a father myself, and sympathise with at least the general notion of concern that your father has for you.

At any rate, perhaps I can offer some balance of perspective. Among other things.